Language Understanding and Pragmatics

Are we really communicating with language models?

Does the preposition 'to' in Chalmers' framing accurately describe what happens when humans interact with LLMs? The distinction between 'talk to' and 'talk at' reveals whether LLMs are genuine addressees or merely processing targets.

Note · 2026-04-15
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Chalmers' title — What We Talk to When We Talk to Language Models — presupposes "talk to." The preposition is not neutral. "To" requires an addressee who can receive in the communicative sense: someone who recognizes the utterance as addressed to them, who orients toward it as a turn in an exchange, who can uptake, challenge, or accept. "At" requires only a target: something one's words are directed toward without the expectation of communicative uptake.

If LLMs process tokens rather than receive communication — if they generate continuations from statistical distributions rather than orient toward utterances as validity-claim-bearing turns — then the correct preposition is "at," not "to." We talk at language models. We interpret what comes back as if it came from a "to." The whole paper is built on a preposition its argument cannot warrant.

The move is designed as the chapter's opening line because it makes the stakes legible in a single image. The difference between "to" and "at" is the difference between communicative exchange (mutual orientation, shared commitment, accountability) and directed output-elicitation (prompt → response, with the user supplying the communicative interpretation unilaterally). If the preposition cannot be warranted, the entire ontological investigation Chalmers builds on it — what kind of entity is the addressee? what is its identity? what are its welfare claims? — is an investigation of something that does not exist in the way the investigation assumes. The addressee who wasn't there.


Source: AI Generated Research/Chalmers Engagement/project-brief.md

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we do not talk TO language models — we talk AT them and the preposition encodes a communicative relation the argument cannot warrant